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Post by Lori on Jun 6, 2004 21:26:59 GMT
Hey Guys! I'm afraid I need cheering up. I had my final college performance on Friday night and I never stopped crying from the minute I came off stage, as did the majority of our class. I feel like someone's just died and I feel so depressed. I'm still alo frantically trying to decide whether to continue with dance my doing a degree at my college or not. My heads in a right state at the minute. I don't mean to bore you's, I just had to write it down... like a sort of diary  |
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Post by Al Truest on Jun 6, 2004 23:39:39 GMT
Dear Lori,
Please remember that disappointments are often learning experiences. If you truly love dance, then don't abandon your dream. 'Without the hurting we would never change" Go to a friend, a counselor at University or even a parent. Share your feelings. Expressing them is halfway to solving them. You have our friendship and support.
Much luck and love, Al
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Post by Adey on Jun 7, 2004 0:43:53 GMT
Hi Lori. Sounds like that crashing desolation and disappointment we can all feel, when we've given everything to a project or a performance. The preparation, the practice, the anticipation, the stress and the elation of the performance - then nothing. It's all over - done. You've probably been pacing yourself, either conciously or unconciously over the weeks to ensure that you were at your peak, both physically and mentally for the performance. Now it's all over, you have very little resillience or anything left in reserve. In short Lori, you're just bloody knackered! Unless you have to, now is not the time to think about where you go from here. If you can allow yourself the luxury, chill for a bit. Unwind, get your strength back. I'm sure you'll find that your enthusiasm for what you surely love will come back to you. That's the time to make the important " do I or don't I " decisions. If after this you're still feeling wretched or just undecided, then I agree with Al's suggestion that you consider having a chat with your student counsellor or course tutor. Remember, after Kate Bush completed the Tour Of Life, she complained of being totally exhausted and couldn't face anything for weeks afterwards. All her enthusiasm for dancing and performance DID come back to her, as it will for you. Remember also to give yourself a pat on the back! You have been working hard in a discipline of the Arts that is extremely demanding. Physical movement and dance are possibly the hardest combination of technique and also inspiration that you are ever likely to face. You are entitled to feel the way that you do - but I promise you, you will recover your strength, determination and enthusiasm. When you do, thats the time to think about your future. If you decide Dance or further study is not for you, then there's nothing wrong with that either. Generally, it saddens me that our Society makes such huge demands of it's Students these days - at least the commited ones. I really do believe that some folks can face pressures that are just too unrealistic to deal with. Add to that, the weight of personal and family/peergroup expectation, and it's not surprising that so many students burn themselves out and resort to alcohol/drugs and the escapism offered by dodgy films of camp Caribbean zombie sea pirates..  Hang in there Lori, you'll get where you want to go. |
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Post by Adey on Jul 9, 2004 0:41:45 GMT
Hey Guys! I'm afraid I need cheering up. I had my final college performance on Friday night and I never stopped crying from the minute I came off stage, as did the majority of our class. I feel like someone's just died and I feel so depressed. I'm still alo frantically trying to decide whether to continue with dance my doing a degree at my college or not. My heads in a right state at the minute. I don't mean to bore you's, I just had to write it down... like a sort of diary It concerns me that this was lori's last post, produced over a month ago. I hope that all is well.. |
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Post by Xanadu on Jul 9, 2004 17:24:10 GMT
It concerns me that this was lori's last post, produced over a month ago. I hope that all is well.. I agree Adey. I miss Lori. I really hope she is feeling better. I've had some troubles as well lately, and I have tried to return here for some light discussion and distraction (tried). I do hope the recent drama hasn't turned everyone off our group, especially our heart and leader... Lori.  |
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Post by Adey on Jul 11, 2004 1:44:04 GMT
Sorry to hear that you've had some troubles too Xan. Life's a bitch sometimes. Hope you're getting through them OK |
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Post by Sto on Jul 11, 2004 10:55:56 GMT
I second Adey on hoping Zan and Lori are having better times of it now. Hey, life wouldn't be exciting if we were happy all the time would it? OK, it's a poor argument... I do, however, suddenly feel very positive about this board again, after thinking it was plunging to its doom. I feel much more of a sense of community here than there has been over the past couple of months, and I think we can build it up to be strong again. Maybe the precious members who left recently will return in the future if we succeed. Plus, the new members seem to be finding their way around nicely (welcome to them!  . So Lori, come back, your community would benefit from a leader if we want it to go back to its past times of strength! |
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Post by Adey on Jul 11, 2004 21:52:11 GMT
Upbeat and positive Sto.
Good man - just what we need.
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Post by Xanadu on Jul 13, 2004 21:14:21 GMT
Sorry to hear that you've had some troubles too Xan. Life's a bitch sometimes. Hope you're getting through them OK Thanks Adey. Don't I know it. I take on a lot of responsibility, and am very hard on myself. I must learn to be better. I can't contol everything, as much as I need to. "It's only in uncertainty..." well, you know. Don't worry about me, I just get into a rut, especially when there is trouble at every turn. This wasn't even a retreat for a while. I second Adey on hoping Zan and Lori are having better times of it now. Hey, life wouldn't be exciting if we were happy all the time would it? OK, it's a poor argument... I do, however, suddenly feel very positive about this board again, after thinking it was plunging to its doom. I feel much more of a sense of community here than there has been over the past couple of months, and I think we can build it up to be strong again. Maybe the precious members who left recently will return in the future if we succeed. Plus, the new members seem to be finding their way around nicely (welcome to them! . So Lori, come back, your community would benefit from a leader if we want it to go back to its past times of strength! Thank you too, Sto. I feel better already, and agree about the community part. Things are turning around. I hope some of our old friends stop by to see what we have been up to and add their input. Especially Lori. Upbeat and positive Sto. Good man - just what we need. Here, here!  |
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. So Lori, come back, your community would benefit from a leader if we want it to go back to its past times of strength! 