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Post by Adey on Feb 24, 2004 16:17:04 GMT
There have been 2 significant women in my life - my first love and my wife. The first I met whilst doing a paper round. I was 16 and she was 14, and we worked for the same newsagent. We were together for 3 years, had a year off(!) then 2 more. Those were formative experimental years and we both grew to some sort of physical and emotional maturity together. As first loves usually are, the relationship was frequently incredibly intense - youth and developing sexuality make for some extreme emotional moments. It was never spoken, but it was always assumed that we would marry. But we never did. She finished the relationship to explore college, herself and other BFs I guess. By the time she was ready to make it 3rd time lucky, my heart was elsewhere. I see her very occasionally when she visits her family. I think about her sometimes and know I'll never forget her (or maybe it was the intensity of our emotional rollercoaster that I'll never forget). She still looks the same to me, probably always will - 5'3" slim and like a young Kate Bush with ringlets.
I met my wife at work. We got together slowly and without major dramas. It was a more 'considered' relationship, with lower highs and higher lows. I won't say anymore - but I anticipate that we will grow old together. We married at 23 and she was 21. We don't have children - by choice - and share a love of animals. There are always pets in our home.
To the person who posted here earlier: close your eyes and heart to nothing and no-one. I know that nothing hurts more than a failed relationship that you've been commited to, but you have so much time. I know it's a cliche, but your life really could change tomorrow..
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Post by Xanadu on Feb 24, 2004 19:58:15 GMT
The voice, manner, and appearance where similar to that of an image I was attracted to. That can only take a relationship so far, usually only to a sexual level. Then personal compatibility becomes an issue.
Thanks Adey, for sharing your story. Sounds like you have a good relationship with your wife. I find it interesting, your choice about children. We have considered the same, and there should be no appologies or explanations in that. Maybe you'd like to share (if your comfortable) your thoughts with me someday. It's not an easy decision to make, and I have much respect for it. It's quite hard on a relationship, in an entirely different way.
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Post by Sven Golly on Feb 24, 2004 20:53:08 GMT
I'm glad I can coax such a thoughtful response with such slight advocacy. Sound is so much overlooked in the sensual world. Sight, touch and smell all get their due; but, sound has a tremendous impact. Mike Tyson, for all his masculine prowess, is hindered by his voice. Kate Bush's voice however, evokes a strong emotional response from me and countless others. The sound of a roaring fire and mountain stream can surely make for an amourous evening. Throw in some Johnny Mathis tunes, and we'll be makin' babies.
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Post by Lori on Feb 24, 2004 22:55:23 GMT
So who is Jack Sparrow, or am I just being dumb? What?!?! Ok Adey you are no longer welcome to this message board
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Post by Xanadu on Feb 24, 2004 23:18:14 GMT
This is a pretty hot picture, Lori. Now, I've had another thought, Sven. I think J Depp it attractive, but not my type. I can acknowledge what I think is attractive about him, but he personally isn't what I'd be looking for. Any comments on that? How does that affect our search for compatibility and sexual attraction?
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Post by Al Truest on Feb 25, 2004 0:04:28 GMT
This is a pretty hot picture, Lori. Now, I've had another thought, Sven. I think J Depp it attractive, but not my type. I can acknowledge what I think is attractive about him, but he personally isn't what I'd be looking for. Any comments on that? How does that affect our search for compatibility and sexual attraction? This point reminds me of a very old thread wherein Malcom Xerxes (wish he'd come back ) asked Lori why she could not acknowledge KB's 'dishyness' (remember that, Lori ;D ) Anyway, I can say that JD is a nice looking man without finding him attractive personally (Maybe cause we look so much alike ) What we look for in a mate may vary by age and gender. The common attraction though, it seems, is health. It may be subliminal, but whether it's child-bearing or the ability to work, we have a desire for our mate to fufill certain needs. Zan' Mr Depp might float your boat for awhile, but you may have surmissed by the way he carries himself, that he's not a stable or trustworthy type of prospect for you. 'Make sense? What to you say Sven?
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Post by Sven Golly on Feb 25, 2004 0:22:23 GMT
If I were to dress like a pirate Lori, you'd just think me to be as gay as a balloon. * Al, I concur with your observations. We don't always know what makes things click. Past associations with external stimuli can have an affect on how we proccess information. "The smell of burning fields" (e.g.)... * not that there's anything wrong with that.
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Post by Adey on Feb 25, 2004 0:52:59 GMT
What?!?! Ok Adey you are no longer welcome to this message board Oh right, so THATS Jack Sparrow. Actually Lori, I'm really embarassed by this, considering that I went to see Pirates of the Carribean. It was a great film and I enjoyed it very much. I think JD is one of the most interesting actors around at the moment. Mind you, I don't suppose you admire him for his acting... Couldn't you get the picture any bigger? I could still just about see the wall behind my PC monitor!
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Post by Sven Golly on Feb 25, 2004 13:40:20 GMT
An interesting question has arisen here. Why are younger people drawn to celebrities. Girls have screamed over artist's and boy band's all the way back to Sinatra. What is it about youth, fame and fantasy?
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Post by Lori on Feb 25, 2004 22:47:50 GMT
Just for the record, Johnny Depp isn't my type at all. I don't find 'JOHNNY DEPP' attractive at all, but Captain Jack Sparrow... phwoar!!!! It's the character I'm drool over, not the actor. I've seen other films with him in which didn't impress me. Jack Sparrow MADE the film or it wouldn't've done half as well. Yes Al, I clearly remember the 'dishiness' posts. Calling someone 'dishy' is completely different to calling someone 'attractive'. MX wasn't too happy that I wouldn't say Kate was dishy, hehe Of course I'll say that Kate's attractive, but to say she was dishy would basically be saying "phwoar, I wouldn't mind a piece of her!!" LoL ;D Finally, SHAME ON YOU ADEY!!!! After seeing the greatest film ever you forget the person who got it where it is??? I'm apaulled
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Post by Xanadu on Feb 26, 2004 1:47:10 GMT
What is it about youth, fame and fantasy? Who said I was attracted to youth, fame and fantasy? ;D ;D Most male actors I find attractive are over 40, British (except 2), and in need of good roles. They are highly acclaimed, award nominated actors, though. It's their intensity, vulnerablity, humor and charm, etc. And not bad looking either.
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Post by Al Truest on Feb 26, 2004 1:53:59 GMT
Who said I was attracted to youth, fame and fantasy? ;D ;D Who said you were younger? Uh, oh.....J/K ;D
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Post by Adey on Feb 26, 2004 1:55:03 GMT
" just another evening at Xan's art class "
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Post by Adey on Feb 26, 2004 2:06:19 GMT
What can I say Sven, the lower half's the better half Nah, just enjoyed Xan's recollection on this thread - she said " picture the scene " - so I did...
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