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Post by Sven Golly on Feb 19, 2004 23:17:55 GMT
I'm really excited about the chance to moderate this board. To start things off, I'd like to broach the subject of coupling. Why are we drawn to another? Is it that rush from the first eye contact - the masculine or feminine scent - the body language of a hand brushing the hair? - These are aspects of the sensual world that are of interest to me in our discussions.
So tell us, Lori Sparrow, what did it for you?... And the rest of you - how did you meet your wife or lover? Tell us about the torrid encounter's that made you write poetry and feel full of life. And finally how does the chemistry of lust translate into love and family?
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Post by Adey on Feb 20, 2004 0:22:41 GMT
Sven, congratulations on the Moderator gig.
This looks like a really interesting thread and I will post something soon.
I wonder how many others will be honest enough!
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Post by Al Truest on Feb 20, 2004 2:38:19 GMT
Sven, this should be interesting. As you said smell and body language are some of the factors. Also things such as the shape of a face can send messages about the vitality of a potential mate. Moreover, "Child bearing hips" or youthful and healthy bodies can signal the successful delivery of children on a subliminal level. There are a bunch of directions to go here. For example pheromes, scents and hormones can cause a variety of behavioral changes. Men at bullfights in Spain often urinate on the hot concrete stands through rolled up program guides. The release of testosterone in the ambient envoironment has been known to cause violent activity. (fights) Historically the French have considered body odor to be erotic. Josephine, in a famous letter from Napoleon, was told not to bathe for three days prior to his return. Lovely huh? How can these cause such wonderful or conversely repellant reactions in others? Makers of cologne and hygiene products know. How often have you smelled your lover's hair. Touched her soft skin? (if that's what floats your boat) and had a physiological change overcome you with desire. Artists and poets are inspired by these wonderful moments. It's what makes life worth living and humanity to go on reproducing. Sorry for the schpeel. I'll get more specific about my experiences if you guys have any interest. (for the purposes of discussion or edification) and I would like to here from some of you guys. If this at all uncomfortable, feel free to comment on the science of it all.
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Post by Lori on Feb 20, 2004 11:31:56 GMT
Hey SG, great topic for your first thread I'd love to be able to add to this but I'm still young, free and single. I have had boyfriends in the past, and yeah I've liked them but none that have meant all that much to me yet. Maybe I'll come back here and post in a few years
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Sven Golly
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"In the night you hide from the madman you're longing to be"
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Post by Sven Golly on Feb 20, 2004 12:10:58 GMT
What about Jack Sparrow?
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Post by Lori on Feb 20, 2004 12:57:51 GMT
Ah-ha! Well that's a completely different kettle of fish ;D But... yeah I'd have him
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Post by Sto on Feb 20, 2004 13:29:23 GMT
I'm with Lori on this one....not about the Jack Sparrow thing, but about coming back in a few years to comment Congrats on the moderatorship Sven!
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Post by strabley on Feb 20, 2004 20:42:05 GMT
This thread is very depressing. I have worked extremely hard to shut off these instincts and inclinations. I have never been in a requited attraction situation. Well, that's not entirely true, but nothing too intense. I was in love once but it's too painful to talk about. I mentioned it a bit in the Why Should I love You thread but I don't think I could talk about it any further. Sorry.
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Post by Sven Golly on Feb 21, 2004 0:04:16 GMT
Thanks all for the good wishes. Sheila, I understand. Maybe you could contribute to the darker side of the topic. The animal instincts and the pitfalls of the stalking and game playing. I believe it was Chris Rock that said the first 3 months of an affair, we send our 'representative' out. Anyway - only if you're game.
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Post by Xanadu on Feb 21, 2004 19:47:01 GMT
I'll revisit this later, as I do have many theories on this topic. I've had MANY discussions about it. I think it's a good thread, Sven and congratulations on Moderator. I know it's in good hands.
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Post by Sven Golly on Feb 22, 2004 0:41:13 GMT
Zan your King Soloman quote "Comfort me with apples...." reminded me of another practice where olfaction was a part of erotic foreplay. Women in the 1800's would sometimes hold a pealed apple under their arm, and then offer it to their partner. Yuk. We now seem to prefer sqeaky clean. It must be noted though that the sense of smell heightens during sexual activity. Perspiration, pheromones and (well you get the picture) are all a part of the sexual experience. I would be glad to expand the discussion to include 'types' of love. After all the difference in erotic lust and the hunt for a lifelong mate must often be distinguished after an intitial encounter (or 5 ) We often are attracted to a person because of perceived qualities that would make for a long term union. However, the degree of love can vary from non-existant (one-night stand) through "the friend zone" (oh no-o-o!) all the way to deep and/or passionate love. Our vocalbulary is inadequate to describe the many different types of love as in some cultures e.g.. Alutian, Eskimo etc. (or is that "ice" ) anyway, you know what I mean. The aural, ocular and olfactory perceptions feed our computers information so we can indentify these categories. So please ride this as far as we can. I/we might learn a thing or two. Not that I want to discuss the Kama Sutra; but, why is it that ancient cultures (Indian/ Japanese/ Egyptian) were able to discuss and portray sex so candidly. They seem to embrace it and celebrate it. Our 'advanced' societies have often reduced it to snickering sit-com fodder. Weigh in please.
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Post by Xanadu on Feb 22, 2004 1:46:50 GMT
I do have a quote for this Sven. I'll look for it over the weekend. However, that's just initial attraction. Depends on wht sort of relationship you are looking for. Sometimes you just happen to find one, the point is the timing and knowing what you have found. All the factors have to be present for a long term mate, otherwise you don't have much. Sexual attraction and friendship are not equal in this situation... but both are very important. Much of a commited relationship must be the abilty to communicate and appreciate one another, and basically, like to spend time together. That's usually overlooked.
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Post by Adey on Feb 23, 2004 2:46:39 GMT
Anyway, I was using KB lyrically to vaguely describe my situation. But, if you want obvious details... it was his voice and my arse (since he sat behind me) for the attraction part. ;D ;D Ah ha, so now we know. Not only is Xan one very bright lady, she is a Helen Hunt lookalike with an arse to die for! (A**e strikes me as such a British word, not at all American - I bet it's a word Hubby uses) I think I would now be able to pick you out at a Kate Bush convention!
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Sven Golly
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Post by Sven Golly on Feb 24, 2004 1:14:26 GMT
So, in a 'roundabout way, you're saying that the sound, pronunciation or the tone of someone's voice is influential?
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Post by Adey on Feb 24, 2004 13:13:02 GMT
So who is Jack Sparrow, or am I just being dumb?
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